Taking a break from the usual, today I will be talking about a very common emotion that we all go through. Disappointment! Now I am no expert on the topic, but just wanted to share my personal experiences and the people I have come across during different walks of life.
What Do You Mean By Disappointment?
The typical dictionary meaning of the word ‘disappointment’ is sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfilment of one’s hopes or expectations. When something does not go the way we wanted it to or someone did not act as per our wishes, we tend to go through this emotion. We all face disappointment on a day-to-day basis. It can be in the form of a heartbreak, not getting rewarded enough, not feeling valuable or loved, and the list goes on. I personally believe that the most painful of these is when people disappoint you.
Disappointment On The Personal Front:
Living in today’s dynamic and competitive world, we can somewhat deal with disappointment in our professional lives, but what happens when you are let down by the people about whom you care the most? Your own parents, your siblings, your closest relatives, your best friend or even your favorite teacher. If you have experienced any of these, then you know how painful it can be. It is truly heartbreaking and if this keeps on happening on a recurring basis, it can stir up a lot of negative emotions like sadness, anger and depression, ultimately affecting your physical as well as mental health.
How To Deal With Disappointment:
I am sure you must have heard the quote “Expectation is the cause of disappointment“. And as we all know, this is easier said than done! Being humans, we all are full of emotions. Let’s face it, we can only keep them in check only to a certain extent but cannot escape them completely. You cannot be a robot and feel absolutely nothing. It is only natural to have expectations from people. Yet we can try to be more stable with the help of the following steps.
- Accept The Change: Since change is inevitable and is never easy, instead of fighting it, try to accept and embrace it. Take your time to process it, but stop denying or resisting it.
- Let It All Out: It is extremely important to let it all out! Building it all up inside will only harm you. Whether it is crying, talking to someone you trust, reading a good book, meditating, writing, taking a long walk, do whatever works for you and makes you feel lighter.
- Communicate: If someone has disappointed you, talk to them and make them understand your point of view. Along with this, also hear their side of the story. Talk it out and try to nip it in the bud.
- Take Baby Steps: Any change cannot be made overnight. It is an ongoing process and takes time. You have to continuously keep on working on yourself in order to reach there.
- Believe In Yourself! When things don’t go our way, we tend to blame ourselves. Thoughts like “What did I do to deserve this” or “Why is this happening to me” start to circle our mind. However, it is important to keep believing in yourself. Never ever give up!
- Take Charge Of Your Emotions: We usually expect too much from a person and then end up getting hurt and disappointed. The key is to not expect unconditionally. Always remember people will not do the same for you as you do for them. You might keep on pondering “How could that person do this to me when I trusted them blindly?” or “I would never do this to someone else”. So it is always better to keep your expectations under check.
- Remember The Lesson: Instead on focusing on the problem, look at the lesson. Make a choice that either makes you or breaks you! Try to remember it the next time and this will help you become stronger.
- Focus On A Goal: Take your mind off the situation and focus on something productive. Instead of obsessing and overthinking, set a goal in your mind and work towards achieving it.
- Look For The Right People: Look around for the people who love you unconditionally. It is not always necessary that the people closest to you will understand what you are going through. Sometimes you can connect with someone else who is going through the same emotion.
To conclude, I just want to say that bad times do not last forever. You deserve all the love and happiness. Just keep going and do not give up! If you are going through something like this today and if this post made you feel just a tad bit better or brought a smile to your face, then I consider myself successful in penning down these thoughts. Stay Strong!
Till next time,